When Parents Disagree about Affirming Trans Kids and Other LGBTQ+ Children

Dr. Robbie Sharp and Dr. Robert McLaughlin give a presentation on issues that may arise when parents are learning about and trying to manage their responses to children with varying gender identities and sexual orientations (Transgender, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual or Queer) particularly with a focus on circumstances where the parents may disagree on how to manage those issues.

Dr. Robbie Sharp and Dr. Bob McLaughlin discuss the importance of working with parents who are the models for social-emotional functioning in the family and world. They give a brief overview of effective parents.
If the family is not flexible enough to meet each other’s needs, can the parent’s goals and expectations for their children and family be refocused on their child’s long term happiness, functionality and wellbeing?
Assessment of Conflict

Character of Conflict
Dr. Robert McLaughlin discusses engaging parents to recall their aspirations and expectations for successful outcomes for their child in order to help them see gender and sexuality in the larger scheme of things.
This is a discussion of the work that needs to take place so that parents/caregivers can be more accepting of identities that differ from parental expectations.
When the child first discloses something about themselves, parents assign a reason or logic for why this has occurred. How can parents with different perspectives manage the child’s gender identity or expression?
Parents: Part Four
Extended families have shaped the parent’s attitudes and expectations and their reactions may be accepting, rejecting or divisive. They can also be healing and sources of support, encouragement and information.
It is important to help families connect with community systems, faith communities, school resources and legal resources. This helps to create a plan for support for the present and future of the child.
Ways that an affirming parent may set limits on the toxic influences of extended family members.