Sexual Diversity is Normal

Introduction to Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.  In order to better understand we need to review some basic concepts.

Gender identity is a person’s internal sense of being a man, woman, neither or both.

Since gender identity is internal, one’s gender identity is not necessarily visible to others.

Transgender/Trans: A term for people whose gender identity, expression or behavior is different from those associated with their assigned sex at birth.

Note: Transgender is correctly used as an adjective, not a noun. Transgender person, transgender people.

Trans Men:  Female to Male, FTM or F2M, transgender persons who were assigned female at birth but have a male gender identity.

Trans Women: Male to Female, MTW or M2W, transgender persons who were assigned male at birth but have a female gender identity.

Non-binary trans people: Gender queer is an umbrella term for gender identities that are not exclusively male or female, identities which are not aligned with the gender binary.

Cisgender: A person who identifies with the physical sex that they were assigned at birth.

Everyone has a sexual orientation — how they feel towards others.

Sexual orientation is a term often used when referring to an individual’s emotional and/or sexual attraction to those of the same and/or another gender.  Gay, lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual are examples of identity labels that people may use.

Being gay is not a choice. Being gay is not a disorder.

“Both heterosexuality and homosexuality are normal aspects of human sexuality.”      – American Psychological Association

These organizations have all stated: that homosexuality and heterosexuality are both normal aspects of human sexuality. There is nothing abnormal about being homosexual.

PARENTS AND THEIR FEELINGS

If you have a gay child, know that you are not alone.  In the United States there are approximately nine million gay people.  Three out of every one hundred people are gay. Eighteen million parents have a gay child.  So, what happens when a child comes out as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender?

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DIVERSITY IS NORMAL

Gender identity is a person’s internal sense of being a man, woman, neither or both. Sexual orientation is a term often used when referring to an individual’s emotional and/or sexual attraction to those of the same and/or another gender. Being gay is not a choice. Being gay is not a disorder.

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THE PARENTAL ROLE

When a child comes out, your response matters. What lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender children fear the most when they come out is to lose their family and friends. Coming out to a parent is a show of trust and a desire to remain in a relationship. Now more than ever, your child needs you.

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SUMMARY AND QUESTIONS

What was your first experience of learning about gay (GLBTQ+) people? What was your first experience of seeing or meeting a gay person? When were you first aware of feelings for or an attraction to another person, a first crush? Were you in control of these feelings and attractions?

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