This myth gives adults permission to not listen or believe their child but instead to try to control and change them.


Gender Identity is too complex for a child to understand.

Only adults can know what gender identity a child should have.

Children must be guided to follow a set gender standard.

Who knows our heart’s desire?


Children know what they like.

Developmental psychology theory teaches that a child should know their gender identity by age 6.

    Diane Ehrensaft, Director of Mental Health at UCSF Benioff Children’s Hospital’s, Child and Adolescent Gender Center